Today while scrolling through Facebook, I read a status from a friend giving a shout out to all of the men being good fathers. He began his status by saying that he appreciates being called a “good father”, but doesn’t recognize it as an achievement because it is expected of him. I felt it was very commendable for him to recognize that and pat other young fathers on the back for the same.
As I’m reading the many comments, I came across one from a young lady who replied,
“What about the mommies who have to be daddie too?”
Aside from the awful spelling I was annoyed that she took away from the moment shared between these young men to voice the plight of the single mother. Ma’am if you are reading this, I would like for you to understand something. You being “daddie” is impossible.
For a while, my mother raised my three brothers and I with the help of an incredible support system. It could not have been easy. I have the best mother in the world, but she couldn’t teach me how to be a man, like only a man could. In my opinion, there is no way a mother can take the place of the father, and vice-versa. If you’re raising a child of the opposite sex, I’m sure there are challenges that are met.
I’d love some feedback here. I’m not a parent and I do not intend to offend anyone. My positive energy and love goes out to all of the incredible single parents and parents in general out there raising our future.
As a single parent, what kind of issues do you face raising a child of the opposite sex?